How bad would you mourn if you lost your family? Would you fight to recover them? Would you be willing to move hell and earth to get to them? In 1 Samuel chapter 30 David was in such a position. While he and his men fought the enemy on the battlefield, another nemesis came from behind and attacked their families taking their wives, sons, and daughters captive.
As men we were made for battle. We fight, conquer, and establish dominion over what we see. Although God has wired us that way it is easy to get lost in the battle. We focus on what is in front of us while loosing sight of who is behind us. Like David, if we lose sight of who is behind us, we give the enemy an open door to attack our household.
David was doing a good thing in fighting the enemy. But he forgot to protect the ones closest to him, the ones that really matter – his family. Working, ministry, volunteering, schooling etc. are all good things. Unfortunately, we sometimes allow those good things to take away from our first and highest calling which is to be a husband and a father.
The Bible says that when David returned to the city and saw that his family was taken away that he and his men, “lifted up their voices and wept, until they had no more power to weep.” (1 Sam 30:4). David’s heart broke because of the mistake he made. Leaving his family defenseless was a grave error. But, thankfully, the story does not end there. After David and his men finished crying, David sought out God. The scriptures say that, “David strengthened himself in the Lord his God.” (1 Sam 30:6). He asked God if he should pursue the enemy that took his family and bring them back. Can you guess what God’s answer was? “Pursue, for you shall surely overtake them, and without fail recover all.” (1 Sam 30:8). I believe, as Godly men, we should have faith in those words: Pursue, and we will, without fail, recover all.
David repented, sought out God, and pursued his family. He was victorious in reconciling his family while making the enemy pay. Although we have made mistakes, there is still hope of reconciliation. But, we must have a repentant heart, a relationship with God, and not be afraid to confront the enemy head on. Our enemy can be diverse. It can be how we spend our time, unforgiveness, abuse, addiction, and a number of things. Whatever the enemy is we must fight for our loved ones.
It’s interesting, I see guys fighting for their careers, respect, money, even physically, but when it comes to fighting for their family, they punk out! Even though David had a word from God that he would be victorious he still had to fight. He fought long and hard. Although we have a word from God, we still need to fight. To the same degree, in fact to a greater degree, that we fight for stuff we should fight for them.